Are you ready for love, ready to be in a long-term relationship but keep dating people who are not looking for the same thing? You keep meeting people who are emotionally unavailable, not ready to settle down, married (whaaat?), just want to hook up, you know the kind. I created this blog to answer all your dating questions to help you meet the perfect person for you. You’ll get practical tips and advice that’ll help you get closer to meeting that special person. My ultimate goal is for you to become someone’s someone.
I know how lonely it can get when you’re single.
You see all your friends changing their relationship status on Facebook, getting engaged, getting married! It’s not fair, right? You have just as much love to give and you want your plus one!
This isn’t about changing who you are or what you look like. It’s about presenting the best version of you. Sometimes all we need to do is tweak a few things to prepare ourselves for meeting Mr. Right For You. He or she will not be perfect …I had to use bold letters and red font for this statement! I think this is important to understand. There is no perfect person and no perfect relationship…that only exists in fairy tales and movies. We have been fed lies, people!!
So, what do I know about dating and love?
I was single for 6 years when I was in my late 20’s and early 30’s. I dated A LOT. I once had a lunch date and a dinner date on the same day with two different guys!! I hear so many women say that hate dating but I really enjoyed it. I got to meet so many different men and learned so much about what not to do when dating and then later I learned what to do when dating which made all the difference in meeting my husband.
When I was in my early 30’s, I had a panic moment. I realized that if I wanted to get married and have kids, I would have to get better and smarter at dating. Unfortunately, us women have a biological clock and I knew I had to make some changes if I wanted to have a family. Obviously, what I was doing was not working. Oftentimes, I wondered if there was something wrong with me. I had a lot going for me but yet, I was single for six years! Until I realized what I had to change, I was able to meet my husband or as he would say, the man of my dreams. We have been married since January of 2014 and have a beautiful baby girl, Dela, who is our world. I’ll tell you our story in one of my blog posts…
A word of caution: I do value some of those old fashioned dating rules. I wanted my husband to be a gentleman, to open the car door for me dammit! To plan dates and pay for them initially. So, you may not agree with some of my advice, which is OK….this may just not be the place for you OR you may want to give it a try if what you’re doing now hasn’t been working for you.
A little about me…
I have my Masters in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy. I was a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern and practiced for about four years. I love this career and hope to retire as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I also have a long career in Human Resources but have left both fields to focus on raising my baby girl Dela and to launch this blog.
Other random facts…
I love building IKEA furniture or any furniture for that matter…it’s therapeutic for me. This is not part of the services I offer! I also love planning events, particularly designing event invitations and crafting.
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